A friend of mine recently mentioned something that has struck a chord with me. When a friend of hers had asked her about how I was doing she replied “He is living his best life”. It made smile from ear to ear and has left me thinking why and how exactly am I living my best life?
Let me start things off by one sentence that drives 99% of my decisions “Every experience you go through leaves you with a story to tell” When I look back on my life I want to have many great stories to share be it PG or R-Rated.
I’ll be honest I didn’t always have that thought process towards life. I was once innocent and pure or as a good friend would say “Sin-free since ‘93”. All things changed one day while driving home when this song came on Vybz Kartel – I’ll Take You There. In the chorus he says “Have you ever done it on the beach, right in the cool cool breeze”. All I could do is smile and recall the times I had sex on the beach during my last vacation. The chorus alone brought a sparkle of excitement to my eyes.
With the chorus repeating in my head, I started to think, you have one life to live and why not experience as many wild things as possible. Naturally my mind went to sex. As I drove I thought about the different sexual experiences I have had and realized I wanted to go further. I created a sexual Bucket list.
Looking at my list, I realized that I’m fortunate to have friends with a connection to my city’s sexual subculture. Getting help on where to go for the best swingers’ bar to BDSM parties, I feel comfortable knowing I am not navigating this journey blindly.
Not being a person of shy nature, I asked my partner(s) what type of activities they were comfortable doing. And to my surprise they were all open to trying everything on my list. Boh Yah! *Tiger Woods arm swing*. I don’t say this to brag, I mention this as I believe as humans we are all curious and we all seek pleasure. I like to believe that my partner(s) see my child-like curiosity to try things comes off as genuine and with no malice.
“As humans, I believe we are all curious and we all seek pleasure”
With that in mind it is totally normal, dare I even say natural for us to want to explore all things that make us feel pleasure. We are creature that have 5 senses and are meant to feel. Explore the world of sex as Carmen Sandiego did the globe. In which case you learn about new ways for you and your partner to experience pleasure leading to a more fulfilling sex life. Worst case you have an interesting sex story to share with your friends. Who does’t love a good sex story.
The secret to living your best life is to, “Live your life like they are going to write a NY Times Best Selling novel about you.” Create a Sexual and non-sexual bucket list, head out in to the world with the intent to cross off as many things as possible. And hey, whether the experience is good or bad it will leave with one hell of a story to tell.
