As a straight male, I have had the pleasure on a few occasions to play with couples. Every time I am invited I must say it is an honour. Let’s be honest there are seamen (see what I did there, sea of men ?) available and willing to play with couples.

Not That Simple

I will say similar to porn most guys think because they are either good or have lots of sex that playing with a couple will be easy. Let me be the first to tell you that it is not that simple.

When playing with a couple you have to pay attention to 2 bodies, personalities, and energy. As much as the girl is the focus and is number 1 priority you have to make sure the guy is enjoying himself. The threesome is equally his experience as it is hers.

An Easy Experience

To navigate through this experience communication is key. It is good to get an understanding of what exactly the couple wants to experience. Some may want to have you there as a supporting cast, others may want you as the lead (also known as the bull) while the male partner sits back and watches also known as cuckolding.

Also, take time to learn about their boundaries, the do’s and don’ts.

Performance Anxiety

I’ll be honest the most stressful part about being invited is that you may not get hard. Personally, this goes through my head each and every time. Kissing and touching helps me get aroused. I understand that for some couples kissing is seen as more intimate than intercourse. This is where the game of “try not to think about it” comes into play. Full disclosure I have had an experience where I just could not get hard, to be honest, the main reason was that I was too much in my head. Being more present has been one of the ways that helped me get over it.

The Pros Outweigh It All

To be honest as someone who gets pleasure from giving pleasure to others. I have to say the joy of the experience and to see the satisfaction on the couple’s face during after care is so worth it. Here this couple allowed me the chance to join in on their own personal sexual experience. On my end I get to see how couples have sex differently, that alone makes me appreciate each experience that much more.

If ever you get the opportunity to play with a couple I say go for it. You Only Live Once and who knows you may learn something new about yourself. Worst case scenario you can make some cool new, and open-minded friends.