Thank You. Is what I want to say to the partners (past & present).
As I sit down on my couch watching an episode of Mindy Project. I begin to reflect back on the past few years and I can’t help but smile and be uber grateful for what I got to experience. I’ve had great moments of happiness that I got to share with my partner(s).
Growth
One of the things that touches me most and that I just love to see is the growth in my partner. To see how far they have come brings me tremendous joy. You know that feeling when your heart warms up, that’s what I feel when I think about it. An example of growth could be when said partner on day 1 is shy about being expressive in the bedroom and may want to have the lights dimmed. To the present day when they get dressed up in sexy lingerie (my weak point), wearing heels, and having an aura of confidence. To open the door and see them in such a state leaves me speechless (mouth hanging down) for about a good 20 seconds. To the point, I just want to sit and stare and appreciate the beautiful transformation that took place before my eyes. It is an honor and pleasure to be part of your growth.
Again, I thank you.
Improved communication
My partners have helped me to become better at communication via listening better. We all know being a good listener is an important skill to have. Let’s be honest, it can be hard to give someone your undivided attention for an extended period of time. When it comes to my partner’s pleasure, I have learned to stay focused, listen to what they are saying, how they are saying it, and to read their body language. We all know it’s not just what you say but also how you say it. I’m uber appreciative for having been able to develop such skill. I am confident that being able to listen better has played a part in the growth of our relationships.
Again, I thank you.
Patience & Being More Open.
In talking to a partner about the growth she had gone through, she promptly asked me “if you knew I was more closed off sexually, what made you stick around?” As I think about it now, I realize that apart from her energy that I enjoyed, I learned that I enjoy helping my partner explore different forms of pleasure. Being patient is a big part in sexual exploration. As the relationship grows, trusts will increase. With an increase in trust, one feels safer to try new things and re-experience past sexual adventures. With partners having new experiences such as threesomes, anal, role play, etc. I have learned to share my gratitude and joy in seeing them tackle something new all in the name of pleasure. I hold their trust with the utmost respect and honor.
Again, I thank you.
Being a Mentor/Teacher
The biggest thing I learned about myself is that I get tremendous pleasure in helping someone else explore new forms of pleasure. As I have said before, I feel like Peter Pan taking Wendy’s hand and bring her to a world of pleasure. Or similar to how Miguel in his new song Harem on the chorus he says
“Just follow me, follow me, oh, harem
Trust me this is where you wanna be, you wanna be, harem
Come and share where love is free, harem”
For me the mentor/teacher comes out naturally as I love helping people. When it comes to pleasure I feel the conversation that is had is often limited or done in a held back fashion. As I mentioned previously the fear of being seen as different/weird holds us back from a world of pleasure. Without my partners, I would have never learned that about myself.
Again, I thank you.
